“Deepening intimacy without defining a level of commitment is dangerous.It’s like going for mountain climbing with a partner who isn’t sure he wants the responsibility of holding your rope. When you have climbed two thousand feet up a mountain face, you don’t want to have a conversation about how he feels “tied down” by your relationship. In the same way, many people expirence deep hurt when they open themselves up emotionally and physically only to be abondoned by someone who proclaims he’s not ready for a serious commitment.”