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The ‘Relationship Vocabulary’!

These days, from a 6th standard girl going out with her classmate to a 27 year old guy in a relationship with a same age girl, all have one thing in common. They are ‘committed’.

How else can we make a joke out of this word?

Half of the young population seriously needs to get clear over the difference between these 3 words– Dating, Passing affair and a Commitment. Reason?

Well, one of my old classmates told me that she recently broke up with a guy she was committed to since last 2 months. I was very close to laughing. Not because I am heartless, but because I knew it’s not going to last. But her lack of knowledge made her use the word ‘committed’ at a very wrong place.

Yes, it IS a big deal. Playing around with such serious words has become very common, and it’s very hurting to hear people say –“I have been committed 5 times in 4 years of my college.” Damn it. That’s not a commitment. That’s dating or a passing affair or maybe just a one night stand. Any non -serious link up but not a commitment.

Dating someone means trying to know them in order to decide whether you can be in a long term relationship with them or not. A passing affair means going out with someone knowing it won’t (and it doesn’t has to) last for long. But nowadays, dating someone means you are committed, having a passing affair is also a commitment and a commitment is also a commitment.

Another interesting trend that is being followed since a very long time is that of girlfriend-boyfriend. Just because some stupid person many years back used these words for someone who you are seriously in love with, it has became practically impossible for me to say that a girl, who is my friend, is my girlfriend. It is not a harmless thing to say, given I will have 9 gf’s then. Huh! It’s ok till one’s teens, but it sure sounds very immature to call you soul mate your girlfriend. [Oh sorry, did I use a very serious word (soul mate)? If yes, please go and check the dictionary to find what ‘committed ‘actually means, the word people use 10 times a day for a person who they are not sure they would be with for the next 6 months].

I am not very good at English, still trying to improve upon it. It is a democratic country, and everyone has a right to say whatever they want to, but I desperately want SOME people to stop making fun of big words in order to make their petty link-ups (if at all they are not the serious ones) sound classy. Owing to the current trend and mindset of people, I doubt whether people will relate to what I want to convey,and a negative feedback is welcome.