Frustrated and I need some inspiration/advice

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Hello puys... i graduated from coll in year 2009.. then did 6 months of study sitting at home, watching my other friends working for gr8 companies and some of them in good b-schools, with a hope to get decent scores this time at least (my grad also pretty much sucked).. And nw when most of the results are declared.. turns out that for me they are worse than garbage... got a call from ICFAI.. bt the reputation is virtually nothing... moreover, when i see my juniors and other people in my TIME class, i ask a question to this universe... do they even deserve to get calls... they perform well in exams.. they study just around 2 hrs. per day... they take these papers very lightly... and yet they taste the success and i can't do anything but just congratulate them and again come back to my room with bags of frustration and blown self respect... what should i do.. please help me..


Hey Dude....

Start Expecting less from urself. Its not possible or feasible to happen all nice things in the world to you only. About others performing well, CAT is an aptitude test. Its not about "How many hrs one studies" but "What aptitude one has". Ofcorz, Studying is important, but its not the only thing required.
Compete with yourself rather than with others. Try to better ur performance. You have also mentioned about bad academics. Now you know the reasons of not getting the calls.
Frustration comes only when one expects a lot from himself. Dont Expect much. And be honest to urself.
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Thanks for advice aditya13286.. and mr.omkar.. can i ask you what do you exactly do.. i mean your profession..

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Keep Up the spirit Dude!!!!
Appreciate your courage to tell the story, at one or the other point average guys like us.. go through all this.. but.. we should keep on moving with life.. there is always so called "self-struggle" that drives you.. Wot Should I advise you, you already learnt so much!!!!
Still 1 important thing!!!! the most important thing I have learnt in my life is to be "Bold" .. Hav the guts!!! fight for what you deserve!!!!- ofcourse "follow your heart-believe in yourself!!! You are the one!!!

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it wud be better to go for MS rather than struggling for CAT...

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HI! PUYS,,
HERE'S WHT HAPPENED2 ME....I HOPE U ALL CAN TAKE ANY INSPIRATION FRM IT.....N IF NY1 GUY HAS TAKEN POSITIVES FRM MY STORY,I WOULD REALLY FEEL BLESSED....

** UNTIL MY 12TH I ALWYS WAS A BRIGHT STUDENT,I TOPPED MY CLASS IN PHYSICS WITH 95MARKS(CBSE) IN 2004..
DEN LIKE ALL OTHERS I WENT FR ENGINEERING ENTRANCE EXAMS....FILLED UP ALMOST ALL D FORMS AVAILABLE IN D MARKET....GT SELECTED IN U.P STATE ENT. WITH 1126 RANK,QULFD. MAHE WITH
364 RANK,QUALFD. IIT SCREENING,ALBIET GT DITCHED IN MAINS...

AFTER ALL DIS MY FATHER ADVISED ME2 JOIN A COACHING INSTI. IN LUCKNOW SO THT I CAN CLEAR IIT....DID THT...
EVRYTHNG WAS GOING FINE UNTIL D DAY ONE OF MY FRNDS TOLD ME ABT "YAHOO MESSENGER"...
DERE WS A CYBER CAFE IN D COACHING'S VICINITY....SO MY DEAR FRND CULTIVATED DIS HABBIT OF CHATTING IN ME....SOON GT INTERACTED WD A GIRL IN HARYANA...AND AFTER3 MONTHS OF CHATTING I PROPOSED HER N GUESS WHT?..SHE ACCEPTED.....

I WS ON D 7TH SKY....FRGT ALL D THINGS...EVN D REASON Y I WS DERE IN D COACHING.....
NT ATTENDED A SINGLE LECTURE N IN D EXAMS NT EVN QUALIFIED D SCREENING...STATE RANK 20300....MAHE 10045...BVP 3975...GT DITCHED ALMOST EVERYWHERE.....FATHER GAVE ME A DEAR KICK ON MY BACK.....
MY GF SUGGESTED2 GIVE IT A SECOND TRY...I DID....RESULT GT EVN WORSE....
THEN SHE SUGGESTED ME 2 GIVE IT A THIRD TRY...I WS REALLY EXHAUSTED BT I AGREED THINKING ABT OUR FUTURE....AND ...FINALLY AFTER 3 YRS OF PRP GT ADMITTED IN A PVT. ENGINEERING CLG IN GHAZIABAD.....

I WASNT ABLE 2 BELIEVE WHT I HAD DONE WD MYSELF NOR DO MY PARENTS,....
IN D FIRST YR OF CLG. I FELF AS IF IM STUDYING WD ALIENS...AFTER FIRST FEW DAYS I NEVER EVR WENT2 CLG D WHOLE SEM..MY ATTENDANCE IN 1ST SEM WS ABT 30%..GT LEAST INTERNALS WHICH ENSURED
THT EVN AFTER GETTING D HIGHEST MARKS IN EXTERNALS MY PERCENTAGE WS NEAR ABT 60....GT HIGHLY FRUSTRATED....I THGT IM DONE....MY ONLY HOPE WAS MY GF...SHE ALWZ USE2 SAY...IT DOSENT MATTER FR ME THT UR A LOOSER FR ALL...U WERE N VL ALWZ B MY *CHAMP*.....

DESE WORDS ALWZ IGNITED CONFIDENCE INSIDE ME AND DEEP INSIDE I ALWZ USE2 THGT THT IF NT FR ME I HAVE2 DO SOMETHNG FR DIS GIRL....I HAVE2 EXCEL IN SOME OR D OTHER COMPETITIONS...FINALLY MY MIND GT STUCK ON CAT....D PACKAGES THT D IIM GRADUATES USE2 GET ALLURED ME BIG TIME....

I LEFT MY ENG. BOOKS AND STarted WD CAT PRP....MY GF ALWZ USE2 SAY THT SHE HAS BELIEF IN ME...N I CN DO WHT NO OTHER CN....THT ALWZ GV ME TREMENDOUS AMOUNT OF CONF....N I GAVE IF NT 100%..BT NEAR ABT DAT....IN MY 2ND YR OF ENG....I APPEARED FR CAT'08 AND JMET,JUST2 CHECK WHR I STAND...GT 91.1%TILE IN CAT AND ABT 1900 ODD RANK IN JMET'09....WSNT UPTO D MARK BT ATLEAST IT PEPPERED MY SELF BELIEF THT CERTAINLY I WS SHORT OF.....

I THANKED MY GF COZ SHE WS D ONLY DRIVING FORCE BEHIND ME....AFTER 5 YRS OF OUR RELATIONSHIP I COULDNT EVN IMAGINE A SINGLE DAY WITHOUT HER,I WS SO SO SO MUCH INVOLVED....I WS REALLY THANKFUL2 DAT ALMIGHTY DAT SHE HS GIVEN SUCH A NICE PARTNER2 ME...I WS AGN ON D SEVENTH SKY....

....BT DESTINY HS SOME OTHER CRUEL PLANS INSTORED FR ME....IN MARCH'09 MY GF CALLED ME AND TOLD ME THT SHE NEVER EVR LOVED ME AND WANT A ^^BREAK-UP^^.......IT WS LIKE WHAT D HELL...M I IN SOME SORT OF HORRIBLE DREAM....THS CANT B TRUE....ITS A JOKE.....BT.....SHE SAID THT SHE WS JUST PASSING HER TIME TALKING2 ME....

PUYS,IF I SAY I WS SHATTERED,IT WONT REALLY B ENOUGH....GT A 280/110 B.P,,,WAS ADMITTED IN HOSPITAL FR D NEXT 15 DAYS.....N WHN I TOLD HER SHE SAID UR LYING....I CANT PEN DOWN MY FEELINGS IN MERE WORDS HERE....I TRIED2 SUICIDE BT DEN I THOUGHT WHT ABT MY PARENTS WHO HAS GIVEN BIRTH,,WHO HAS SOME EXPECTATIONS FRM ME....FR D NEXT 2 MONTHS I CRIED OCEANS,,,,,
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GUYS,FRM MY STORY I JUST WANTED 2 TELL U ALL THAT DERE'S ABSOLUTELY NOTHING U CANT CONQUER,DERE MIGHT B HARDSHIPS IN UR LIFE BT NEVER EVR LET U DOWN....ALTHOUGH M NT WORTH 2 GIVE MY OWN EXAMPLE,BT GUYS IF I CAN OVERCOME ALL DESE ,U DEF CN...MARK MY WORDS..U DEF. CN....


LAST SEM IN MY CLG I WS D TOPPER.....N NW I DONT NEED ANY1 2B MY DRIVING FORCE,,,,MY PARENTS R MY DRVNG FORCE NW....IM HERE COZ OF MY PARENTS...HAVE GIVEN JMET'10 GT AIR 15XX....NOT ACCEPTABLE BT CERTAINLY I WILL NT LOOSE HOPE AND 1 DAY I WILL PROVE MY WORTH2 MY PARENTS...N MOST IMPORTANTLY2 ME.....AND AFTER AN YEAR OR SO U VL B READING ALL DIS IN ^^ALL I WANTED2 SPEAK ABT CAT^^......HOPE SO.....
GUYS NEVER EVR LOOSE HOPE....DERE'S AN OLD SAYING--EVERY DOG HAS ITS DAY__AND UR DAY IS NT DAT FAR AS IT SEEMS2 B...BELIEVE ME ,N MOST IMP'NLY BELIEVE IN YOURSELF.........

hi! puys

thanx fr ur overwhelming response2 d above post...gt over 150 pvt. msgs....

but guys d truth is m nt dat strong....m still trying2 overcome whtevr happened wd me....

(30 cigrettes,a qutr. whisky,n 2 sleeping pills)/day,,,(fr a year nw),,,,,,

its just so hard 2 erase her memories...we both loved 2 get wet in d rain water,n now with every drop of water on me i feel as if im melting like a wax candle....

she also use2 tease me by giving a tough ( by her standard's) QUANTS ques.saying tht this one i cant solve,n whn i managed2 solve it,she alwz gets irritated and use2 say"CHEATER", i knw u hv copied frm somewhr,,,,,accompanied by tons of laughter....

destiny still is nt on my side.....in cat'09 i gt d same quants ques.,she asked me once....n i went in a flashback....total attempts in QUANTS ths year 1....nt evn looked at d other ques. after dat1....or should i say i didnt had d courage 2 do so.....

bt still im trying my level best....

i knw itz nt d right place 2 discuss all dese thngs...bt wo kehte hain na ki "DUKH BAATNE SE KAM HOTA HAI"...N WHT BETTER PLACE 2share THN PG........

thnx 1nce agn fr ur feedback n support puys....really appreciate it.....

moderators...m really sorry if unknowingly i hv broken ny rules.....
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Hi friends...
I am a passout of 2009(b.e--computer engg.) ..want to do pg before going for job..so never attended placement and from july started preparing for cat. But it turned to b the worst with just iit-r and khg call and iit-r with not so good interview.i have no hope from cat now. I have a question that is there any guy who was in same situation wasting one year after grudation and how this guy overcome the situation?? I am asking becoz i am still unemployed having be-75 and friends with too low % r earining and that makes me feel that my decision to go for cat was wrong.
The only one thing i am sure about is that some have success in early part of life and some get little late. But some times when ur all efforts of one year goes in vain then it hurts too much that too just after completing graduation.

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harshitlamba Says
Thanks for advice aditya13286.. and mr.omkar.. can i ask you what do you exactly do.. i mean your profession..

Does it relate to one's profession...? Btw I am a CA by Profession....Fresher....Also FRM and CFA L2....Waiting for CAT Results....Anything More....? I hv gone through such phases. Take my suggestion as a bitter pill as we have to accept reality....
No offence meant...
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Hello puys... i graduated from coll in year 2009.. then did 6 months of study sitting at home, watching my other friends working for gr8 companies and some of them in good b-schools, with a hope to get decent scores this time at least (my grad also pretty much sucked).. And nw when most of the results are declared.. turns out that for me they are worse than garbage... got a call from ICFAI.. bt the reputation is virtually nothing... moreover, when i see my juniors and other people in my TIME class, i ask a question to this universe... do they even deserve to get calls... they perform well in exams.. they study just around 2 hrs. per day... they take these papers very lightly... and yet they taste the success and i can't do anything but just congratulate them and again come back to my room with bags of frustration and blown self respect... what should i do.. please help me..


Hi friends...
I am a passout of 2009(b.e--computer engg.) ..want to do pg before going for job..so never attended placement and from july started preparing for cat. But it turned to b the worst with just iit-r and khg call and iit-r with not so good interview.i have no hope from cat now. I have a question that is there any guy who was in same situation wasting one year after grudation and how this guy overcome the situation?? I am asking becoz i am still unemployed having be-75 and friends with too low % r earining and that makes me feel that my decision to go for cat was wrong.
The only one thing i am sure about is that some have success in early part of life and some get little late. But some times when ur all efforts of one year goes in vain then it hurts too much that too just after completing graduation.



Hey guys
I am pretty in the same boat as you guys.I am a 2009 passout with no job in hand and no calls even though I prepared hard for cat 2009.But there is no need to feel dejected.You people have got time in your hand(you would be 21-22 years old probably).Most important thing is don't let your motivation fall.Find a job and bell the cat next year.If you ask any expert he will tell u that mba should be done after 2-3 yesrs of experience.And second most important thing....don't compare yourself with your friends.you are unique in your own way...learn from the mistakes u commited this year and only focus on your dream institutes....hope this helps
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Hey Puys
I need some advice and help...I have been calld for icici gd/pi.I have wrkd in infy for one yr but dnt have any work ex as such...as there were no projects due to recession.However I have done one OJT during my tenure..I just wanted to know what should I tell the pannelist in case I am asked abt my work ex?????

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hi! puys

thanx fr ur overwhelming response2 d above post...gt over 150 pvt. msgs....

but guys d truth is m nt dat strong....m still trying2 overcome whtevr happened wd me....


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Oye chill maar yaar, I know its hard to get over it and how do you feel, but then you have give all this up and start moving in your life, how old are you not ever 26 I believe. There you have so many years ahead in your life, and it seems that you have lost it all. Just look at yourself and realize your full potential. Nothing is there in cigarettes Sleeping Pill Alcohol, these are things which everyone thinks that will get them out off all this, but then it does not work mate, you get peace for few hours and then again you start reeling back .. Ill give you an advice, go take a good break, take a vacation head off to some good place , relax and think what you want to do in your life ahead, get more FOCUS.. And then as in jab we met "Uski Photo Jalao aur flush kardo".. And be relieved, sh!@ the Sh$T out of your body and look life as you ahve never lived it and you want to start over again , MBA Job whatever get focused and adamant and just do whatever you want to do for yourself ..
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hey guys...

this thread is really rocking, motivating and inspirational....

so i would like to share my story too...

well im a 2008 pass out from an engineering college, in which i was not at all interested, was forced into it due to my parental pressure and before that i was forced to choose science stream..
through all these four years i believed that im not at all good at technical stuff so never tried to apply my brains into it..
somehow i manged to pass the exams and get a placement...
attempted for cat 2007..
got 70%ile...( with little bit of prepration)

attempted for cat 2008
got 87%ile..(w/o any prepration)
i worked in an mnc for 14 months with lot of enthu in initial months but over the time i realised i can hang onto it further, wanted to pursue my dream of doing mba... so i resigned, in the course of resignation some of my friends discouraged, u think u r not good in technical skills? but r u good in managerial skill? u r not good in that too... u r so soft spoken, u r so submissive, u r earning so well over here and blah blah.. but still i resigned...

i also applied for teach for india, coz of my society inclination but could not get thru till the final stage

now my serious advice is don't leave everything for cat, u should always have a back up plan


im feeling good while sharing all this stuff...

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Hey Puys

I would like to share my story .

I did my Btech last year got placed in two companies but still havent got a call from ay of them expecting call from one soon though , I am really disappointed by my cat result.

I feel that somehow i get overawed by situations , i suck at quants despite being an engineer , this year just got 41 percentile in it , dont know what to do . My friends are earning and i am here running from pillar to post for a job getting rejected , cat wasnt my target this year but was expecting a dcent score a 61 percentile overall this is not even face saving , i can't face my parents , havent told them the exact score .

I just feels like IIT fiasco once again ...

Thinking of just quiting my cat plan's forever because i don' t think i will be able to improve till i learn to sustain pressure , should i quit on MBA dream's and look elsewhere ?

I dont know what to do ahead .....

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Hey Puys

I would like to share my story .

I did my Btech last year got placed in two companies but still havent got a call from ay of them expecting call from one soon though , I am really disappointed by my cat result.

I feel that somehow i get overawed by situations , i suck at quants despite being an engineer , this year just got 41 percentile in it , dont know what to do . My friends are earning and i am here running from pillar to post for a job getting rejected , cat wasnt my target this year but was expecting a dcent score a 61 percentile overall this is not even face saving , i can't face my parents , havent told them the exact score .

I just feels like IIT fiasco once again ...

Thinking of just quiting my cat plan's forever because i don' t think i will be able to improve till i learn to sustain pressure , should i quit on MBA dream's and look elsewhere ?

I dont know what to do ahead .....


Firstly I am in the same situation you are in. ( BE2009 Passout) and even i flunked in CAT. But let me tell you what you shouldn't do at this time.
Do not look at your friends who are earning and feel sorry for yourself. I know how it feels but then we tend to make it a huge issue which it isn't.
As you say you are expecting a call from the company you got selected for,so wait for it. Have some experience under your belt.
Then about your CAT dream just ask yourself whether you have it in you for cracking it. Whether you believe you can do it?? If you believe you can do it you certainly can. Do not get over awed by situations. Accept every situation as it is and take intelligent action.
Believe me some years down the line you would say the situation which you are in now is so stupid. It will surely happen. So as of now do some introspection and celebrate Holi. Stop feeling sorry for yourself.
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Dear Ambika,

I am a '07 comp engg grad. I was interested in IIT but couldn't get thru......but ther r a million such Rinkeshs....
I hv 25 month of IT experience...This is my 5th attempt at CAT (including one in 3rd yr, it was allowed then)....this is the third time i hv scored around 90%ile (90.35/89.97/90.95)

It's better to fail then not to try......failure teaches us a lot...sounds gyan.....but that's the way it is......

I also left my job in Sept to prepare for CAT...& presently on a 3 month internship with Teach For India :cheerio:
Now looking for an IT job.....i am sure we will get one......i don't want to do it but hv to......who does technical stuff in IT? It's all business most of the time....
Anyways....i wud suggest target small companies they always...hv requirement....once u get a job der....switch to a good company in 6 months...

hey guys...

this thread is really rocking, motivating and inspirational....

so i would like to share my story too...
..............
im feeling good while sharing all this stuff...
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well this is my story i am a eng graduate with decent grades( 2009 passout). Got placed in a reputed company but hasnt got the call letter n i dont expect to get one though soon.Gave my cat exam with little preparation n screwed it big time. Now all i have to do is start hunting for jobs but the only problem is that i have wasted an year of my life when all my friends have started working n i am the only one in my whole gang to be doing nothing in my life.:banghead::banghead::banghead::banghead::banghead:
Took everything in my life as easy n now paying a big price for it

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well this is my story i am a eng graduate with decent grades( 2009 passout). Got placed in a reputed company but hasnt got the call letter n i dont expect to get one though soon.Gave my cat exam with little preparation n screwed it big time. Now all i have to do is start hunting for jobs but the only problem is that i have wasted an year of my life when all my friends have started working n i am the only one in my whole gang to be doing nothing in my life.:banghead::banghead::banghead::banghead::banghead:
Took everything in my life as easy n now paying a big price for it

well LIfe is meant to be difficult dude. Dont think that u are the only one paying the price. There are people who have taken cat 09 seriously and screwed it big time. you should stop poundering over ur past and start all over again. Get a job and keep trying. Dont lose heart. I know its difficult. But thts the only option.
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yeah......M myself a B.tech from IIT Kanpur....I have enquired about almost similar issue from my seniors currently pursuing MBA...and they all have 2 say dat is just the name of company u r working for....no one is really bothered about wat kind of work you are really into.....So I will suggest if you are not able to focus on your studies here in Bangalore( which is quite understandable) I will rather say..u move to Gurgaon...u will get to stay at your place with your family...Will have a mental peace and surely you will be able to prepare nicely ( I have taken almost similar step recently...Made a switch over top international design firm to join a smaller firm in Delhi as I wanna prepare myself...

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i am responsible fr the way i feel

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I am a B.Tech graduate(200 and was placed in a reputed company.All of my friends those who were placed in the company got their joining in the first few months,xcept me.IN the mean while i started preparing for the PSU's xam and adding salt to my woes i missed cutoff's by just 1-2 marks.AFter that i got serious and seriously started preparing for the cat devoting around 5-6 hours a day.And the hardwork of mine paid in the mocks ,was consistentaly scoring above 90.After attempting 56 ques in cat i was confident of securing above 90.BUt when the result came out it was a shock to me i secured only 73%ile(last year i had secured 86%ile without any prep) and worst was that the section in which i was strongest that is va(cleared all the cutooffs of va in mocks) i had secured ony 20%ile.I have lost faith in CAT this time.I am really very disappointed as i have wasted my 2 years,mean while the long awaited call from the company has come and they want me 2 join,but i have no interest in IT, but have to join it.I am not losing any hopes , yes this year it was a failure,but u only learn from your failures and i am determined that next year cat will be belled.
PS-to all the freshers please try to engage in some kind of work(join ngo or some other kind of work) coz i am passing through this phase (2 years wasted) and seriously it haunts me,i feel dejected.

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Hi ,
I have an experience of 4 + in I.T,got 90 percentile in CAT.My resume is not good with no certificates, not good marks in XII .I have got some MBA colleges call.I dont know without it can convert any of them .Kindly help i am depressed.